If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, avoid positive thinking

It seems contradictory, but happiness is not something conjured up by working magic formulas. It is a genuine experience and largely a state of mind. It is the result of changing attitudes and, most importantly, actions, but it cannot be manufactured by chants and mantras. It bothers me, it has always bothered me, how willingly … Read moreIf you want to be happy for the rest of your life, avoid positive thinking

Stuff to give up if you want to be happy

  Happiness is often found hidden inside baggage we are carrying but should have abandoned long ago. They are, to be corny, suitcases of sorrow we’ve packed for the trip and we keep stuffing things in them. Well, here’s my list of stuff you can leave by the side of the road. The illusion that … Read moreStuff to give up if you want to be happy

Live life in the what-it-is instead of the what-you-wished-it-was

Success and achievement is won, or lost, in incredibly small increments. Take for example, a race. Often it is but tenths or hundredths of a second that differentiates the first and second place winners. Sometimes it is pure chance. Most of the time it is not. There is a little, almost indistinguishable, seemingly insignificant difference … Read moreLive life in the what-it-is instead of the what-you-wished-it-was

16 questions you should ask yourself at least once a year

 For many years I have given out this list to people who voice some dissatisfaction with life, young people who are just embarking on life on their own, with people facing the challenges of a mid-life readjustment, and with those who find themselves overloaded with work. It is an analytical process where you define and describe … Read more16 questions you should ask yourself at least once a year